Whats wrong with this? 10 points for clear answer. I NEED HELP?

My bestfriend has been on a trip with a church group for about a week come saturday or around there,





The last time she went on a trip, I missed her (as a friend I'm not gay).





Last year's summer, we got in a fight because of her boyfriend and that killed me.


We are fine now though of course, but her NEW boyfriend and her fight non stop and she always tells me about it and I help her and him with it non stop.





Eh, basically i don't miss her like I thought I would.


Why do you think?





And how do I know if she doesnt miss me either?


Ahg I know this is a a wierd one, sorryWhats wrong with this? 10 points for clear answer. I NEED HELP?
well with best friends like any kind of relationship as long as your having fun and no problems things go smooth..but in comes trouble or boyfriends and the to friends sort of drift apart even tho you have been there for her your getting tired of all her problems being dumped on you and you miss just the you and her fun...the fun part has stoped and all the things that are happening are about her...and guys not her and you. so its getting to where is she is not around you don't miss her cause you time is peaceful and quit and your not having to listen all about her her her. so its pretty normal for this to happen to good friends. and this happens with guys too.Whats wrong with this? 10 points for clear answer. I NEED HELP?
I use one of the funniest movies to prove my point, Superbad. You never know how much you miss someone til you talk about it. I'm sure she's missing your helpful advice and your quirky self. She'd probably be asking if you missed her too, but maybe she doesn't have a computer where she is. If she has a cell, drop her a text telling her you miss talking to her and want to know how she is doing, how her trip is going. When she gets back, tell her you missed her company while she was gone. She'll like hearing it if she's a good friend.
I think you are kind of getting over the whole thing. It seems like you are subconsciously feeling used. You know you are tight, but isn't there any other time she calls you other than to vent. I know , I know thats what friends are for, but maybe she's trating to turn you off in the sense that all she does in her relationships is argue.





I know you care about her and she does for you too, but you need this time apart to know if absence makes the heart grow fonder?? I guess not, in this case!
you are used to her being gone, because she does it every year.





or you needed the break from her and her bf fighting all the time.





she probably misses you , but she needed the break from the fighting with her bf. and she cant call you (iv been to church trips before and they took my phone so i couldnt call anyone)
Well, I think that maybe the fighting and the fact that you always help her out took a toll on your firendship.


This year, it might be sort of a break for you to not have to take care of her problems.





And well, you can't know if she really misses you or not.


But, why does it matter if you dont miss you?
maybe you dont miss her lik u thought u would b/c u realized she is not goin to be with you as a friend. if she misses u she will give u the biggest hug ever and she will tell you all about her trip and maybe invite you next time.
u dont miss u like u thought u would because u are tired of helping her with her boyfriends fights so u dont care that she isnt home because then u would be giving her advice all the time about what to do with her boyfriend and their fights
friends grow apart. its life, but its things like these that show how much you need eachother. let her know your there for her when her n this new guy eventually split and make it clear friends beat boyfriends anyday. maybe u just need a break from eachother?
I don't think that you don't miss her, I think its because you feel as if you have a break from the drama and constant counseling. You are relishing you ';vacation'; from obligatory drama.





I believe you miss her but you know that as a friend you have to accept and at times help her with her baggage. And this particular baggage you dislike dealing with because it has already made you fight as friends in the past and you don't want it to happen again, all over another boyfriend.





So really I think its just that you don't miss dealing with the constant mediation you are obligated to deal with as a best friend. It may be tiring you out, and bothering you since you are always stuck in the middle. You may want to say leave me alone to them but you just can't because what are best Friends for right. That saying must bug your conscience every time you have to come to their rescue.





Don't feel bad that feeling is natural especially if its constant and repetitive. You may even be a little jealous but more so worried that if you say how you really feel you will have to relive that previous fight. You don't want to lose your best friend but you are just growing sick of the whole scenario.





No1 wants another person come between them and thier BFF of years and ruin their friendship. So just talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her everything that has been bothering you from a-z. This should bring you both to an understanding and another level of love and respect as best friends.





Hope I Helped Good Luck
Theres nothing wrong with missing your friend , it sounds like you've been through alot with her and these no guys shes trying to have relationships with , the 2 of yall really need to sit down and have a serious girl talk about how watching her with these losers is really making you feel , it might be a tough conversation to have cause shes gonna feel like your not just being a supportive friend and trying to come down on her but in the end your relationship will be better off for it , Its hard to sit back and watch someone that you care about so much going through all of that but just being there as a shoulder to lean on and the advice helps alot
basically, i think that u aren't missing your friend like you thought you would because of all the drama and fighting that is going on. I think you just need some space from her and her boyfriend for a few days to get everything straight and relax. And if your friend and her boyfriend fight nonstop, maybe they weren't meant to be. I think they should take a break from each other for a little while, too. I two friends who are constantly fighting, too, and i was always the one stuck in the middle of it. So, i told them carefully that i needed some space for a few days to get everything straight so i could think. maybe that's what u could do to.


Best of Luck!